Parent Resources and Tips 

    Source: Search Institute
    Read all about the 40 Developmental Assets (Internal and External Assets) to support your child with ways to obtain these characteristics! The more Assets a child has, the greater success they will have in their future endeavors!

    Internal Assets known to create positive environments for young people and External Assets reflect values, skills, and beliefs that young people need to fully engage with and function in the world around them.

    Tips for Parents:

    Helping Your Child Succeed in School
    Source: U.S. Department of Education    

    Here are some tips that you may use at home:

          *   Encourage your child to read. It's the single most important thing that you can do to help your child succeed in school. Read with your child right from the start, and make sure there are lots of reading materials in the house.

        *   Talk with your child. Talking and listening are major components of children's school success. By having many opportunities to use and hear spoken language, children are given a tremendous advantage, picking up the language skills they will need to do well in school

         *   Monitor homework, and how much time children spend watching television, playing video games, and using the Internet.  Help your child get organized and provide a quiet place in the home for him or her to study. Limit the amount of time your child spends watching television, surfing the Internet, and playing video games. Help your child learn to properly and effectively use the Internet.

       *   Encourage your child to be responsible and work independently. Make t clear to your child that he or she has to take responsibility for actions both at home and at school.

       *   Encourage active learning. Listen to your child's ideas and respond to them. Active learning also can take place when your child plays sports, acts in a school play, plays a musical instrument, or visits museums and bookstores.

    Tips for helping your child through early adolescence 

    Source: U.S. Department of Education

    As children enter the middle grades, parents often become less involved in their lives. However, adolescents need as much attention and love from their parents as they did when they were younger -- possibly more! Here are some tips to help your child through early adolescence:

    *   Stay involved in your child's life, both inside and outside of school;

    *   Provide both unconditional love and appropriate limits to help your child thrive and feel safe;

    *   Learn as much as you can about early adolescence;

    *   Talk with your child often about what is most important to him or her;

    *   Hold your child to high, but realistic standards;

    *   Show that you value education;

    *   Provide opportunities for your pre-teen and teen to be successful

    *   Monitor your child's friendships;

    *   Work with your child to become more aware of the media and how to use the media appropriately;

    *   Model good behavior;

    *   Be alert to major problems; and

    *   Hang in there when times are tough.

    This information was drawn form the larger booklet in the Helping Your Child series, "Helping Your Child Through Early Adolescence." Based on the latest research in adolescent development and learning, this booklet addresses parents' questions, provides suggestions, and tackles issues that parents of young adolescents (ages 10-14) generally find most challenging. For more information on helping your child during adolescence and other topics, please visit the Helping Your Child series Web site a


    "We all know that mothers and fathers are the most important influences in a child's life. Children whose parents show them love and support and stay active in their lives have an enormous advantage growing up."  --Mrs. Laura Bush

     What can your student do about Bullying Behaviors

    1)  What I can do if I see someone is being bullied:

    Creative Problem Solving - Come up with helpful ways to deal with bullying.


    Get Adult Help - This is NOT tattling when it keeps others SAFE! This is called Reporting when you tell an adult to keep yourself or someone else safe.


    Relate and Join - Join with and support the victims. There is safety and strength in numbers.


    Empathy - Try to understand the feelings of the victim and speak out against bullying.


    Stand Up and Speak Out - Say, "Bullying is not allowed at Starr King" and remember be an "Up-stander" and show your support to someone being bullied, not a "Bystander" who stands by and watches it happen.


    2) What I can do if I am being bullied:


    Ask for Help - When someone bullies you, you can ask other students, teachers, brothers and sisters to help you.


    Assert Yourself - When someone picks on you: you can say "Please stop that. I don't like it." Be specific about what you want the student to stop while using an affirming tone.


    Try Humor - You can try to find a funny way to deal with the bully.


    Avoidance - Stay away from kids who are mean.


    Self-Talk - When someone is mean to you, say to yourself "I'm O.K., this is that kid's problem. I'm a nice kid; being mean isn't right."


    Own It - Sometimes you can deflect a put-down by owning it. For example, if someone says, "That's an ugly dress," you can say "I don't like it either, but my mom made me wear it."

    Personal Strengths and Character Qualities

    1              Caring

    2              Responsible

    3              Artistic

    4              Open-Minded

    5              Honest

    6              Self-Disciplined

    7              Creative


    9            Helpful

    10          Brave

    11          Energetic

    12          Thoughtful

    13          Respectful

    14          Kind

    15          Friendly

    16          Unselfish

    17          Polite

    18          Accepting of Others

    19          Giving

    20          Witty

    See how many of these positive character traits your child may have! 


    Having Friendly Conversations

    Skills needed:

    21          I have a warm, friendly smile.

    22          I have good eye contact

    23          I listen and hear what the other person is saying.

    24          I make comments to show I am listening.

    25          I add additional information to the conversation.

    26          I make encouraging, positive responses.


    Possible Conversation Topics:


    27          Ask them to share a story about their pet. If they don't have a pet, ask them if they did have one, what kind would they like to have.

    28           Ask what movies they like.

    29           Ask if they like to play wall ball, four square,  or ask about any other activities they might enjoy.

    30           Ask about what they like to do on the weekends.

Last Modified on October 30, 2019