What are the Successful Practices?
- Demonstrates grit/perseverance
- Exhibits a growth mindset
- Demonstrates gratitude
- Demonstrates curiosity
- Constructively collaborates
- Demonstrates self discipline – Interpersonal skills
- Demonstrates self discipline – Class work & Homework
Why focus on Practices?
Research has proven:
- IQ is not static, nor a predictor of future success
- Over time, optimism, curiosity, self control and grit have been shown to be important qualities to lifelong learning and success in the workplace
- The ability to persevere through academic challenges, translates to a thirst for greater knowledge and the ability to face challenges in life.
How do I use successful practices at home?
Avoid labels and give growth-mindset praise. Don’t label yourself in ways that model a “fixed mindset” (e.g., I’m a terrible cook….I was never good at math.”)
Shift your child’s attention to the process that led to outcome. (i.e., cause and effect)
- Praise and value effort, practice, self-correction, and persistence.
- Don’t shelter your child from a failed task. Ask “What can you learn from this experience? What could you try differently the next time?” Get curious about your child’s work through questioning
- How did you figure that out?
- What’s another way you could have done that?
- How many times did you try before it turned out that way?
- What here was challenging and how did you figure it out?
- What do you plan to do next time?
Help children get curious about mistakes.
- Help them reframe a mistake as new information or as a step in the process of learning.
Help children talk back to negative self-talk with phrases like:
- I am willing to learn new skills to improve, and I know it will be hard at times.
- I get better and better with practice, this is hard, but will get easier.
- Practice makes permanent.
Model a growth-mindset.
- For example, at dinner: Tell your child about a time when you didn’t know the answer to a recent question. Who did you ask for help? How did you learn the answer?